Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Cavemen Walking Among Us

This morning, I had the misfortune of going head to head with a living, breathing Neanderthal. I posted a comment on a prominent Philippine journalist's Facebook site about the web entities that i like to call "blaggers". These are bloggers who use the newfound new media popularity among the PR people in order to score free meals, lootbags, and trips, and in return write atrocious entries in their websites, composed mostly of photos of themselves and their group with celebrities and a few sentences in poor grammar to explain what the hell it was they were doing there.

Anyway, Caveman comments that i and those who agreed with me in the post were "crucifying them", and called trivialized our opinions by calling us "li'l girls". I explained my side, saying that i am not the only one complaining, that i have been on the receiving end of gripes and horror stories from PR practitioners, my colleagues and bosses in media, and even from my blogger-friends. I also replied that i did not appreciate being called a "li'l girl". But to no avail, Caveman goes on to say that we "li'l girls" should leave the matter to the experts and simply concentrate on our New Year's resolutions. When he did acknowledge us as "young women", it was with a very annoying j3j3j3 or what is known as jejemon laughter in local parlance.

Why was i so angry, my friend asked. Well, simply put, it is because i am a woman who has paid my dues in order to get to wherever i am now. My voice is heard through my writing, i have readers who value this voice. Then, to be put in my place as a "li'l girl who should leave matters to the experts" really gets my goat.

My Caveman's online posturings has shown me that no matter how many women leaders there are in Philippine society, however many women have reaped awards for sheer determination and hard work, there will always be the Caveman who will heckle from the sidelines and ask these "li'l girls" to "leave it to the experts" -- experts, who to him are probably chauvinist pigs who champion the cause of manliness and male domination above all else.

I pray Mr.Caveman, that you don't have any daughters. I can only imagine what kind of ego-centric chauvinistic household they could grow up in. I also pray Mr.Caveman, that you do not have any sons. Your small-minded opinions about the "weaker sex" may rub off on them.

As for me, i will strive every day, with every fiber of my being, to raise four boys who know how to respect other people, and believe in the equality of the sexes.

Saturday, November 5, 2011

The Filipina as a Wife

I got very upset recently when I Googled myself (admit it, you do it too!) and found that my food review of Spanish restaurant Tapella is being used as part of the content by a group of unscrupulous websites advertising Filipina Mail Order Brides.

First, I got angry because the article I worked on was just snatched up and posted without my permission, and then when I realized what the websites were about and that my article was sharing cyber space with demeaning and degrading sites, I went ballistic!

To quote, an article that was replicated in the websites says :
"We want to say the beauty of Philippine women who are beautiful and gentle, patient and respectful to the Philippine traditional custom; that is, they take a good care of their husband and children... A Philippine woman usually does not get divorced if she has an unfaithful husband because she always try to work it out to maintain her family and raise her children... they can cook delicious dinner and there are no guilt trips for going out with the guys after getting married."

They have since removed the post, probably because they got wind of my rant on my Facebook page, but they still have a doozy. And, I quote a lady named "Jenny Rogers", who writes in one grammatically-inept post on those websites:
"As you know that, Filipino women are too popular to the world today because of their physical and inner beauty. In other words, you are 'the man' of the house when living with a Filipino wife. Filipinas have qualities that cannot be found in Western girls. Can you imagine one situation? After a long working day, when you get home, you will see a beautiful wife who greets you at the door with smile, a ready dinner, and an organized house. Filipino wife is the solution."

This totally blew me away.

Wow, Filipinas are being marketed to be like dogs who eagerly await their master's return from work, with slippers in hand, and ready to fetch anything that is commanded to them. To those men who aspire to be 'the man of the house' as Ms. Rogers calls them, wake up and smell the Starbucks!

We are not pets. We are human beings; women who have dignity and are worthy of the respect that you losers, who probably have never even spoken to a real woman face-to-face and thus need greedy human smugglers to facilitate a relationship for you, will never be able to give -- because you don't have any dignity.

We are not items on a grocery shelf that you "shop" for. If you want to marry a Filipina, do not browse through websites that show women in various states of undress, and list down their vital statistics. The women on these sites are mostly respectable -- only desperate for a better situation in life, hence they are coerced into showing skin. Women in the Philippines, as in any other place in the world, want to meet someone decent and fall in love. Every woman deserves that.

And yes, most Filipinas can cook and clean -- but only because we want to, not because we have to do it for someone else. If you are looking for someone to follow your every command and forgive all your faults, GET A DOG.

Besides, those who are desperate enough to marry predators like you have only one thing in mind, and that's a Green Card.

So how's that for your fairytale ending?